Caring for the terminally ill requires a special depth of realisation. This site is avenue for the whole international devotee community to both give and receive shelter. This amazing Vaisnava organisation for the terminally ill does wonderful work. Look at their site to find out more…www.vaisnavacare.com
From Vaisnava C.A.R.E, you can:
– Gain solace if you are suffering from a terminal disease, have a loved one who is, or are grieving for someone
– Send in prayer requests to the devotee community
– Get Krsna conscious advice for dealing with end-of-life questions such as Why me? Why now? What is the meaning of life?
– Ask about medical information regarding diseases like epilepsy
– learn life skills
– learn communication skills
This was an article that appeared on their site to give you a taste of wholesome depth available in their work…
To our readers at Vaisnavas C.A.R.E.,
I was given this poem on the subject of listening. It was written by Ralph Roughton, a man I never met, but one who obviously knows the true meaning of being a good listener. Being a good listener is a large part of being a good caregiver to a patient. It is also a skill to be used everyday with every person we speak with. I hope this helps you the next time you are asked to listen to someone who really needs you to hear what they are saying.
Your servant,
Sangita devi dasi
On Listening
By Ralph Roughton
When I ask you to listen to me and you start by giving advice, you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as it may seem.
Listen! All I ask is that you listen, not talk or do…just hear me.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.
And I can do for myself. I’m not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.
But when you accept as simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and get about the business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling. And when that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what’s behind them.
So, please listen and just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn, and I will listen to you.
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